No drumming is not all about being simple.  Drumming is about making the entire band and song look and sound good.  A drummer is part of a team and it takes teamwork to make a song sound and look great.  I always think more about what it takes to make the song work rather than what a highly technical player could play for the song.  

Just my .02 cents. . .

Your job as drummer is not necessarily to be fabulous and have everyone follow you.  Sometimes your job is simply to support the music, keep time, and add color.  If the vocalist wanders, drags, or rushes - your job (as well as the rest of  the band) is to follow her.  If she slows up - you slow up.  If she suddenly goes to the bridge instead of the verse, you go to the bridge, etc.

If you're not having fun, then quit.  But before you do, make sure you're not making yourself one of those weak links by being so rigid and intractable in your playing that you're closed-minded and not listening, reacting and blending with the others.

Just quit now so we can put an end to this thread!  

Look, in your musical life you will often be hooked up with some players that are less experienced/musical than you, and yes, it can be frustrating.  Know too that YOU will be that weak link sometimes as well.

I will agree with you that being out of tune is inexcusable.

Lastly, I'll remind you that just because you play the right notes at the right time doesn't necessarily mean you are playing musically.


(btw: is there perhaps a bit of a language barrier that may be making your posts sounds more "arrogant" than you intend?)

I didn't mean to seem like I was piling on.  I just noted that you are from Malaysia and perhaps something is getting a bit lost in translation??? Maybe??  (Pardon me if I'm being presumptuous)

No real harm intended.

Slow songs are often "harder" for lots of people.  There is a lot of space between notes so there is a lot more space in which to play early and get off tempo.  Also, just because there is a lot of space/time in each measure doesn't mean you HAVE to fill every measure with as many notes as possible.

Keep at it.  Hopefully the band will gel.

Hey, I used to be playing soft All the time!!
I only recently learned to use the Germen grip, which makes me tend to hit rather hard
And I also angled the snare so that rim shots are unthinkable and fairly easy to reach!
Btw, I did play soft today after more complains came;D
I just don't understand the accoustic set enough though; when I am on the E kit (Which is most often), everything requires more force. It is a different story with accoustics; I just have to bring my sticks down (Relaxed manner) and it will create a loud bang anyway unless I lower my sticks!

I need more training on the accoustic set, or else, technics are more or less the same. Dynamics!!
Ps. I planned to use a lighter and thinner pair of sticks after realizing the din lol.

Sounds like a good idea, I will try it on next practice session:D
I believe I ever turned up the volumes alot before, I really have to hit soft I recalled!

UPDATE:

Today its Thursday and it was the last day of school
I didn't expect myself to get so excited today.

Well, today I took my chopsticks (Not a drum stick because of the sound!!) and decided to play Jazz on the drumset. I knew I wasn't allowed but I played anyway. Little did I knew how much attentions I had created. The band leader came out and she asked me to play it for her to hear (Because it was nice) and a group started forming around me. Now I really didn't know how it feels to be looked at by many;D But I actually felt quite nervous. Two of my classmate drummers were also marveling at using chopsticks for playing Jazz, they were somewhat surprised to learn that the sound quality can be so good. (Some even thought Jazz what like that lol!)

After I had finished playing, they all clapped and I was just so surprised they should do that Then I and the band leader managed to get a go at the slow song (Which we were finding problems last time).
Then the surprizing thing happened; She told me that she would like me to play the method Hill-Song or others used where they would start off soft and gradually build up to the climax. Now, that was surprising to hear from her! Because? That was what I had always wanted since day one!! Now that she said it, and furthurmore stating how loud they can be at the climax parts and wanting me to play like that, I am just overwhelmed and excited (My dream come true. However, provided they can cope with it:P).
Well, I didn't play the way she suggested me to play today due to the fact that, many people were around and there wasn't a proper band yet to handle all this (passion & complication). But it has already been stated that I should play in this manner! (Exackly what my church musicians are doing all the time! ).

Well, I know they can improve and I will definitely try my best too

I did not mention a critical part though...I wanted to stop playing the drums and was just standing up to leave because I was fustrated with the orders when the band leader started talking to me. She told me that I must learn to follow the order of the band (That was before she told me the style she wanted.) She just doesn't want me to leave at all. She also told me things like I am the most suitable for the plans and and that the previous drummer just isn't suited for what she wanted. It was only at this moment that she told me what she actually wanted. And that was what I wanted too. Yet it must be reviewed only now. (I got a feeling she brought this up in the last minute).
All the time, the passion has been obstructed by off tunes and lack of practice. And I as a drummer couldn't go far or create the impact if no one plays well. In order for the passion to take effect, everyone must be prepared and in tune.

My practice time for the band has also been shifted from Weds to Mondays since she does not want us to clash with the dance team.
And now since it is the holidays, I will really miss those practice sessions for the time being (Two weeks hols).

Currently I am just happy to know how am I suppost to play. Anymore feedbacks will be most welcome .

Are you playing drums, or are you playing music with the drums?

If the former, you'll be a a basement wonder.

If the latter, just give the music what it needs.

I've always loved Syncopated's posts.  Syncopated, you crack me up.  You are a real unique dude.

Slim