Well, I'll approach it the way I was taught about a hundred years ago.
In your left hand keep moving the stick until you get a feel for a balance point with you hand straight and the thumb clamped against the stick. Then leave your top two fingers straight out and curl the bottom two under against your palm. Control the bounce with the curled fingers. The right hand is the matched stick way with knuckles pointed up. I hope this helps.....Tilting your snare like an old marching drum helps to get great rim shots and better feel with this style. The action is with the wrist more than the fingers. But after a while you'll get a feel for using both the wrist and the fingers. Strictly old school....A Haskel Harr book would help you. Your local library may have one.
