DRUMMER CAFE

ok.  hypothetical situation.  youve got two bands.  they are different bands, that cover different areas of your interests.  you love them both, musically and personality wise they are both a match.  you dont want to give up one for the other but the time commitment to doing them both is a bit much.  how do you decide?

"...different bands, that cover different areas of your interests."

Usually there's one that's slightly stronger. I.e., my musical tastes are all over the place, but there's always something that's just more "there" but I convince myself that the other is better for extraneous reasons.

As Darth Vader said: "Search your feelings, Luke." You know what the truth is already. Zen, baby, zen.

Or just stick with both. Why choose?

the one you like better all things considered (money, talent, style, etc)

thanks for the replies all ... a lot of "stick with both" answers ... which unfortunately was the point of my post, thats not an option

as for other elements ... money making? about the same (though my percentage is bigger with a 3-peice than 4 ) and I cant do it.  I cant think in financial terms when it comes to bands.  not my style.  longevity? so hard to tell.  its a relationship thing you know? "oh honey, I love you, lets be together for ever! or at least until someone better comes along that I didnt forsee." but both bands are equally dedicated.

well, I havent even auditioned for the second band yet so its still hypothetical  part of me wants them to decide against me so I dont have to choose you know

go with the smaller band...better girl to guy ratio at shows

adn the other two are a couple so all the chicks are for me ... ok ... we all know drummers dont get "chicks" ... and to top it off, im pretty much married anyway.

As Gene Simmons said, "Whoever says they're in a rock  band because of music alone is lying.  They want the sex and money!!"  At least some of us aren't whores!!

just to close this up ... I went to an audition for the band I hadnt officially joined yet.  it had its ups and downs.  on the musical side, mostly up.  when we tried working through a couple of the written songs, it was awkward (as to be expected) but I got the vibe that it would be a good thing if I played exactly what the old bassist played and that didnt sit well with me.  then when we "jammed" on a couple riffs he had written it came together well.  personality side, mostly up.  we chatted, joked, all went well.  lifestyle side, mostly down.  im not much of a drinker and generally find it tricky to relate to people that list bars as thier primary hangout.  I got nothing against having a laugh and a refreshing beverage, but I tend toward coffee more than beer you know.  id like to be able to hang out with a band after a rehersal or something.  id have a hard time with that with these guys.

to complicate things, they have shows lined up (prior to thier last bassist bailing) in the next month.  unfortunately im still getting the set learned for this other band im in for a couple shows we have booked, and im working on some solo material that I plan on recording in about a month.

they have a couple other guys to try out this week.  I left it with "I dig the music, and would love to play it, but getting a set down in two weeks with all the other stuff ive got going that takes priority isnt realistic.  if you find a cat that fits the bill, more power to ya.  if not, gimmie a ring" ... even if they do. ill more than likely turn 'em down.  gotta stay focused.

so there you have it.  thanks for all your ideas/thoughts.