Oops same here!  Come to think of it, I did mangle my ring finger pretty good the last time I played the congas...



And come to think of that my conga heads look worn at the edge...

 

I stopped wearing anything on my wrist or fingers quite some time ago. Sadly I have the classic asthma/eczema combination, and would always get a nice crop beneath the watch strap and wedding ring most summers. My wife got used to me taking the ring off. I totally gave up on wearing a watch more than 15 years ago as an IT consultant (too many jibes about "how much is this meeting costing" every time I looked at it) and gave up on the wedding ring perhaps five years ago. My wife does not have a problem with it. It now lives in the bedside table (translation: night stand).

i choked up big time and it feels better!!

I cant stand wearing my wedding ring. My wife and I realize that or marriage is more than a ring. So I dont worry if she doesnt wear her and she doesnt worry if I dont  wear mine. Your newly married your is just a little possesive right now, she'll mellow out. Just take your ring off when you play and put it in a safe place (try putting it in the elastic of your sock). Just remember there will be bigger hurdles to worry about in your married life than weither you wear your ring when practicing. Ask her that if she cant handle something thats such a nonissue whats she gonna do when a real problem arises.

For any drummers yet to purchase their wedding rings ... I had mine custom made last year.  When my fiancee' inquired about a special design for a drummer, the ring maker tested my grip and developed the perfect design to accomodate my drumming.  

Although I doubted it would make a difference at the time, he actually squared the ring (reduced the roundness).  He further explained that a squared ring, while not very common, was a more natural fit as our fingers are in fact closer to being square than they are round.  

I purchased his custom design in a medium heavy white gold model ... and haven't even noticed it once while playing.   I use both trad and matched grip and practice or gig everyday.  

I was certain I would have issues ... and I'm just amazed that the squared design is so comfortable.  Essentially, there is less ring taking up space between my fingers.   The size of the ring was not compromised to accomplish this.   The slightly altered shape isn't noticeable except on very close inspection.   I couldn't be happier with it.  

If it would be helpful to anyone, I'd be happy to photograph the design of my custom ring if you are considering speaking with your ring maker about something similar to accomodate comfort while drumming ...

cheers

Pete  

Hi Felix- thanks for asking,  I'm doing great.   Met a girl, got married, bought a house, built a drum studio, had a beautiful baby girl 8 months ago and lots and lots of gigging.   Good times!   Hope you are doing well, also.    I'm still loving my Zild 18" China and 'A' crash (two former Felix victims!).    Also picked up a few new kits over the past couple years  (about 2 more kits than what I actually need).   And ... (hard to admit) ... among my snare drum purchases -an early 70's Acrolite!!   Of all my snare drums, it's one of two I take on every gig.   I don't know if the Acrolite discussion is still in gear ... it was the focus of a hot debate when I temporarily drifted from the D.Cafe scene.   Anyway, I'm yammering on again already ... great to see you're still around the Cafe!!  

I wear mine when I play kit, but not when playing Mallets (Stevens Grip).  That pinches a bit too much.  It doesn't bother me when playing kit though.  The wife doesn't really care, as she removes hers on occasion too (showers and horse riding/driving stuff).  Never been a big deal for either of us.

Not gonna ask about that.

I've never really had problems with my wedding ring.  However, my college ring I can't wear while playing.  When I'm not playing, I stuff it in that little pocket inside the right front pocket of your jeans .. you know, the iPod Nano pocket.  The only problem I've had is forgetting it was in there and panicking later when I can't find my ring.

If it hurts, take it off.