1)  There's no substitute for practice, which I'm guessing you already know. 

2)  Taking lessons from a good teacher is highly recommended, if you're not doing so already.

3)  Go buy Billy Ward's "Big Time" instructional DVD. 

4)  If you don't have one already, get a metronome or drum machine.  It doesn't need to be big, fancy, or expensive - one can get plenty of mileage out of a little $25 metronome.

Get an electronic metronome or drum machine that you can use headphones with.
Then add isolation headphones like Vic Firth's.

At that point, you'll be able to comfortably, safely hear some reference while you're playing.  Logs lots of time with that.

If you're not already doing this, get yourself set up where you can play along to MP3s or CD's.  I find some students lose track of actually playing along to complete songs and wind up only playing little segments while practicing.  There's no substitute for playing along to complete songs start to finish and locking in with the groove of the song.  Logs lots of time with that.

If you have the passion about drums to just come here and tell everyone that you need to STOP! and try again, it's a very good start.

All has been said above, but the most important is to never, EVER! lose the fun you have in front of your drums. NEVER!