I think I saw James and Bart touch on this.
One key is to lock in with the Bass Player.
Buy him a drink, cigarette, whatever he needs (no I'm not suggesting anything illegal, but you get my point), but lock in with him.  If you lock in with a very good Bass Player, it'll make you pee your pants it Swings So Good !   Then, he'll buy You, any thing you need !   Everything else is Gravy !

They're tellin' you right about the quarter notes on the ride.  Check Jimmy Cobb on 'Kinda Blue'.  So simple, So Swingin'.
All the great Drummers listed on this thread, check out how they lock in with the Bass Player.
In closing, listen to the great old cats on Bass.
I know as Drummers, we are the Timekeepers by function, but a  great Bass Player can carry you to
'Sweavin' !  (swingin' Heaven)