Brilliant post, Mister Acrolite! I seriously hope you teach, because you have a wonderful talent on transmiting confidences to others!

Anopheles: it's comforting to know we're not the only ones going through these phases of frustation, isn't it? Just don't do as I once did and start punching walls... definitely not good for your chops!  
Mister Acrolite describe this "phenomena" (sp?) perfectly, but I'd like to add a quote from TERRY BOZZIO, just to reafirm this idea that even the great professionals we all look up to go throught the same:

"Staying Focused and Motivated:
Strangely enough, I feel that's out of my power. My experience has been that when the energy is there, it happens in spite of me. I remember a six-week period where probably all my ostinatos I developed for my three Paiste videos just came through. I had just returned from a sucessful European tour, was confident, and had an undeniable feeling it was the right thing to do. I would practice up to 3 hours, and the ideas just flowed. Then there are times, like recently, when I haven't come up with anything new in a long time and I haven't got a clue as to what I'm doing or where I'm going. I can try to practice, but nothing feels right.

Thanks for the advice/moral support.  
Great post, Mister Acrolite.   I hope everyone took away as much from it as I did.   It helped to ease my frustration a  little.   Not that I don't still HATE my left hand...   But at least now, with practice, I will give it a chance to prove itself.  

this is how i learned and i use finger sticking more than just wrist.

first, turn so the back of your hand is facing up, not your thumb.
 
then just practice letting the stick bounce naturally in your hand, without trying to control it too much, but yet keeping some amount of control.

then gradually learn more control playing with rudiments and stuff, getting harder and harder as you go along.

practicing on a non-rebounding surface can help too.

what i mean by that is on the edge of your bed or something.

it will hurt alot, just warning you.

And thats the truth.  Pain is natures way of telling you something is not right.  If it hurts don't do it, if its fun do it again.  Drumming should be fun.

I can't imagine NOT using my left hand.

But then I'm left-handed and darned near ambidextrous.

I dont think V-drums are any more sensitive than regular drums other than if they are set incorrectly a very small stroke would sound somewhat louder than an acoustic drum. That can be fixed by tweaking the module though. Take this advice for what it is though, I just own electronic drums. I am by no means an instructor at this. Just my 2 cents.

And as an added point to the first post:

I think the grip you're roughly describing is known as the molar grip. And, it is painful....if you move your wrist the wrong way.

In this grip, the back of your hand is facing up and the motion of your wrist is not quite up and down..it is more swivelling your wrist - to draw the stick back, your thumb goes up toward the ceiling. To strike, your thumb goes down toward the drum (obviously your whole wrist moves, but im just giving the direction).

This is a great grip to use, as it is very loose, and in my experience, gives the greatest response from the drum. Although I don't quite use it, because I find it less practical around the full kit (but i'm still going with it at times).