So, I'm a busy little college student, squeezing in whatever practice time I can get on practice pads and pillows.  I'm also a dorm-dweller, which means my kit is at home.  My stick control (and foot control, thanks to my new bass drum pad) have improved greatly in the last few months, but when I go back to my kit, I suck.  The problem lies with the different rebound feels between the snare, toms, and HH.  

For example, I can play a paradiddle up to speed on the pad and also on the snare, but if I try to play it with my left hand on the HH and my right hand on the snare, I lose it.  Should I be able to 'feel' the same rebound off the hi-hat that I get on the snare?  I feel like the practicing I do on pads is hurting my drumset playing.

HELP!

The recent technique posts have been cool, by the way.  

bottom cue. it's lood-vig. German I think.