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Its been years and years since I've played aux. percussion alongside an accoustic kit.  Currently I am one of the 3 kit drummers at church and we have another guy on the djembe.  What I'm interested in finding out (even if I need to purchase a book for him) are ideas that I could give him in playing alongside another drummer.  Most of the music is straight forward though I am trying to come up with "Special music" options to be played during times such as the taking up of an offering, etc.  This could allow more freedom of styles in the since that the musicians wouldn't have to be holding back on ideas or volume, etc. so as not to distract from the words.  I'm thinking in terms of poly rhythmic ideas between different drummers, etc.  Imagine a djembe in  a 4/4 pattern while the drummer and other musicans play in 5/4.  The idea being that everyone is playing a certain rhythm and laced underneath it is this djembe pattern which changes ever so slightly- almost imperceptably, as the end of each 5/4 phrase coincides with a different beat of the djembe's 4/4 pattern.
Maybe that explanation isn't clear enough and hence the possible need of advise on how to explain ideas to someone else.  I can show him the pattern to play, but I'm more concerned about helping him to free himself up to play more cohesively with other drummers.  I'd like him to see that he's playing with me one week and can count on my style of playing to allow him to play more freely whereas perhaps the next week there might be another drummer who really enjoys fills and the djembe perhaps needs to stay heavy on the back beat, etc.
As I understand basically a weak drummer (perhaps a beginner getting started in live playing) requires a really strong minded and focused aux. player.  Whereas a strong pocket player can give freedom to the aux. to be more colorful and a strong fill player would require the aux. to stay in the pocket, etc.

That's some pretty wicked polyrhythm construction you're thinking about there. We do a 4/4 interlaced with 5/4 on a Petro Haitian song occassionally. It's a war song "music to kill your neighbor by" meant to be played aggressively. The Segon (middle drum) stays solid in 4/4, and the Mamon (lowest tone lead drum) does a lead in 5/4. The thing that rips apart the rhythm is when the Bula (high drum) joins in 5/4. The pattern for the Bula is basically two treceo patterns back-to-back reversed. Somehow, that particular pattern is easy to twist a tiny bit and slide subtly, but very noticeably, into 5/4.

That 5/4 against 4/4 is simply wicked and pretty much rips the hearts right out of everyone close by.
Not sure that's the affect you're going for in a church,,, but then again, we're playing it at a very quick tempo.
Good luck!

Yeah, I see, just a little variation for a few moments. It'll create tension, but it can be cool in a jazzy sort of way.  
I take it, this guy is a non-musician, and you're just wondering if he can hold down a part.
I've noticed that many entry-level drummers chose the djembe. In fact that's how I came in. So, you've got the biggest loudest drum and the beat is getting butchered.  
It's only about now that I could play as auxiliary with some guys playing "real" music, and could maybe throw in some tasty rolls or off beats without sounding musically challenged.
I hope you guys don't get too frustrated.
I recommend you go for the pie-in-the-sky! Try the more difficult option and make it happen! Sure it's volunteer, but the journey itself is worth the attempt.. It's always fun to stretch and learn.  
Bueno Suerte

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