Tim and Bart cut right to the chase
-not exactly the topic but much more important and much more interesting.
One of the first instruction tapes I ever bought (yes I'm showing my age -it was a VHS) was Dave Weckl's first big one. I think it's called Back To The Basics.
He touches on how important it is to not be a $&#%*! in the workplace. At the time I agreed with it but just brushed it off as common sense. Life isn't as easy as that though. If you want to keep your networking on the up and up you have to be civil if not overly 'nice'. I haven't always been on the right side of the line, and we all can get frustrated but you just cannot vent in the workplace -not if you want to have people calling you with work.
Doesn't matter if you're better than the other drummer they're considering if you mope through sets and give people the evil eye for hitting wrong notes or speeding things up etc.
Even when you're right, it never feels good afterward if you express yourself negatively. Rarely do I ever feel bad about being too nice to someone (although I can think of a few occasions hehe). And that same someone never feels bad about you for that.
I don't claim to have this figured out either, I just claim that as the years pass I value the idea more and more. And I appreciate and respect it in others.
I hope I don't mess up again because yes I've messed up before and I regret it on a human level and on a professional level.
There is a certain musician that I play with right now who I have a TON of respect for (non drummer -not that there's anything wrong with that LOL). This person is an EXCELLENT player and he also is just the nicest guy you could meet. I aspire to be the positive professional that he is and am thankful to have him as a role model as well as a colleague.
Good Luck and look like you want to be on stage. After all, you really DO want to be there don't you?